Its 3:30 a.m., and Im on a bus between Kampala, Uganda, and Nairobi, Kenya, before returning home to the USA. As I bump along the Kenyan countryside under the night sky, Im troubled by the political rancor Ill be stepping back into.
Im a Christian, conservative and Republican, but all three families have disappointed and embarrassed me from time to time. Too many of my Christian brothers and sisters have gotten in the habit of spewing judgment and condemnation at those with whom they disagree. Its wrong. Of many Bible verses to support this point, the Greatest Commandment seems like a solid choice. Love your neighbor as yourself.
I personally have strong moral convictions on a host of issues and believe Christians and non-Christians should take their convictions into the voting booth without reproach. We call that democracy. What we should not and cannot do if we hope for a healthy, prosperous nation is demagogue our neighbors because they see the world differently, suggesting that not only their opinion but they themselves are somehow less. Such behavior is immature, anti-social and un-American.
As for conservatives and Republicans, vitriol aimed at the other side is both unproductive and self defeating. Politics is not the central battleground between good and evil. Yet today the parties behave like every issue is an existential threat and their last stand. The same critique holds for my liberal and Democratic friends.
Rather than looking at our dysfunctional political governing system with the scorn and incredulity that it deserves, many of us dive into the cesspool head first and carry the torch of division and demagoguery to Main Street. Weve successfully created a country of warring factions, and its ripping America apart at the seams. When it takes foreign terrorists slaughtering thousands of our neighbors to unite us, something is horribly wrong.
Now, for my humble prescription: listen. Thats it, listen. I borrowed the idea from God because Hes smarter than I am. Be quick to listen, slow to speak.
I believe we have a moral responsibility to listen and gain an understanding of the other sides position. What good is it to hold fiercely to a position that weve not bothered to weigh or pressure test against divergent perspectives? Too often we engage in mutual reinforcement parties with friends of like mind. We call this pervasive American practice confirmation bias. Technology has allowed such complete fracturing of the information pipeline that most Americans are hearing exactly what they want to hear from people just like them without ever having their ideas questioned or challenged. This is dangerous.
What if we turned off our favored news source, sat down with someone of a different, fresh perspective and listened, leaving as much bias and prejudice as humanly possible at the door? Then imagine if your new good practice were adopted on park benches across America, in school cafeterias and yes, even in the halls of Congress and streets of Raleigh. While wed still hold different, even competing, views, wed be able to move beyond slander and seek common ground. Its too easy to step up on our high horse and rant until the cows come home, sometimes its even fun, but its destructive, and one by one we need to change.
The sun is now rising over Nairobi. Its time for a new day in America as well. Its time to listen.
Pearce Godwin graduated from Duke University in 2008 and spent five years working on Capitol Hill and with a political consulting firm. He is founder and president of the Listen First Project ( ListenFirstProject.org) and can be reached at PearceDGodwin@gmail.com.